How do we feel about change?
Sometimes change looks like a tiny trickle over time, a gentle wave carving a rock.
Sometimes change comes into our lives as a bulldozer.
Other times we accept it and welcome it.
Lots of the times we resist it.
It's been a constant theme in my life, especially over the past 3 years. I have an unwavering commitment to my personal growth that brings me so very often to the edges of my comfort zone, a space that we tend to settle a little too much at times. And I am pulled towards change, pulled towards the expansion of my comfort zone, and spurred into the unknown.
For me change is a constant process of observing and refining my self and my life, shedding patterns that don't serve me and allowing a new self identity to emerge naturally. It is a continual realigning of who I am and how I show up in my life. If these 2 don't meet, then we start feeling the dissonance. That dissonance could show as feelings of dissatisfaction or unfulfillment, or maybe changes in our mood and emotional states. These are all messages of our bodies to grab our attention, so that we can allow the change to happen. What I have found is that the change will happen inevitably, whether we consciously allow it or not. Life will bring change forth no matter what.
The choice is ours to embrace it gracefully and consciously - to even invite and welcome change in our lives. Or to unconsciously settle too long into our comfort zone and then inevitably experience change as a bulldozer in our lives. So I highly recommend to follow that pull and surrender to this constant flux.
With awareness that change is an inevitable part of life, comes growth.
With resistance to change, comes shrinking of our full self and discontentment.
The only constant in life is that we are in constant flux.
It is impossible to step into the same river twice.
Into the same rivers we step and we do not, we are and we are not.
~ Heraclitus
So how do we feel about change?
Change brings up fear, doubt and uncomfortable feelings. I would go as far to say that some changes feel like mini deaths. And they are. We are shedding and releasing parts of ourselves, that our bodies and nervous system senses as alert, as death. It is a biological safety mechanism to resist change. A lot of fear also rises up, that brings up to the surface conditioned patterning usually from a younger age. And of course our beautiful mind, doing its job, will bring up all the doubts and questions.
On the other hand, change and variability is one of our main human needs.
One of those paradoxes of life and evidence how beautifully complex we are!
Yet the answer to this is SIMPLE.
Simple practices of self care, inner child work and conscious action.
Not always easy, but this can become a graceful process.
Here’s a practice you can do to embrace change and take action towards conscious transformation. Taking an audit of all areas in your life and writing down where you are now and where you want to be.
Creating a vision for yourself will give you focus (especially if you are feeling overwhelmed). Then come back to where you are now and ask yourself:
What is the one thing that I can do today towards my vision?
It only takes a tiny pivot of conscious action to shift the entire trajectory of your life!
Never fear to start fresh
De-clutter inside and out often
Let go of old energy
Make space for the new
Embrace change
To your conscious change!
With all my love,